Sometimes things don’t add up.
In relationships, sometimes things might seem a little strange or out of place. Something a loved one tells you. Answers to questions might be deflected. They start to seem defensive or start avoiding normal everyday conversations you would normally have. Maybe they’re staying late at work too or going out more. You may ask them outright and not receive a straight answer. Little things begin to creep into the back of your head and linger, slowly growing with the passing weeks. You need to know what’s going on and you want the truth.
Well, today’s post is about how to get your partner/spouse to do just that when you think they might be hiding something. Having a nagging doubt biting at your conscience all day is not going to leave you in a relaxed happy mood and certainly won’t make for a happy relationship environment.
It won’t go away until you do something about it and until you find out the answers you need to hear. If you’ve ever found yourself in this situation with a loved one, it can sometimes give you a feeling of dread, anger, fear and apprehension just thinking about it. Well this isn’t healthy over a prolonged period and you shouldn’t have to put up with it.
Ignoring It Only Makes It Worse
You might try to push it to the back of your mind, and push it down, deep deep down to a place that you think is far enough away that it’ll just go away eventually. Well, that doesn’t normally happen, in fact just the opposite happens. It slowly begins to come back, cracks appear in stories, doubt starts to flood back in and before you know it, it becomes such a big focus of your day that you’ve got to do something about it before you have a melt down.
Facing Up To Your Doubts
Your best bet is to ask the questions you want answers to outright. It could be an idea to write down exactly what it is that’s bothering you and have a list of prepared questions. If this works and you get the answers you were looking for then good or bad, this is ultimately your end goal. You have to decide where to go from here. However, If asking the questions doesn’t produce the desired answers you were looking for and only leaves the waters muddied further, there is somewhere you can turn.
A lot of people don’t realise how much they communicate through their bodies. As humans, believe it or not, we communicate the majority of what we’re saying via our body. It’s thought that 55% of of our message comes from body language alone, and only 7% from the words we use. The remaining 38% is the tone with which we say the words. That’s staggering! Just think about that for a minute. So when you hear the words a loved one tells you, that’s actually only 7% of the message they’re sending, yet most people probably put 100% of the emphasis on listening just to the words their loved one says to them. There’s actually another 93% you can glean here. But even when you listen to the tone when they speak, that’s still not even half of the picture.
Help At Hand
With the right training and knowledge of what to look out for, you can actually learn when a person is lying to you by checking out their body language. So, really the ball is in your court now. Do you want to continue being lied to? Do you want to continue being the victim? Or do you want to know when someone is lying to you and get them to tell you the truth?
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