Hey guys, Mike here. If you’re looking for what to say to get your ex back, then hopefully the following will help you. If you’ve recently broken up (and I’m guessing you’re the one who was dumped), then actually the best thing to say is… nothing! Quite simply, if it has only very recently happened, the best thing you can do is actually NOT contact them at all – at least for now. Now I know that seems REALLY, REALLY HARD right now, but please trust me.
Oh, and if it’s been a little while already, then I’ll be covering that towards the end of this article, so keep reading.
So, as I was saying… initially, the best thing to do is not say anything to them. The worst thing you can do is bombard them with text messages, chats, pictures etc. and definitely DON’T “accidentally” bump in to them when you’re out and about. It’s vitally important you give them some space for now. You see, they actually need to spend some time away from you, so they can have some time to miss you and potentially get some feelings for you back again. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that’s all you should do, not at all. If you’re interested in knowing more, I’ll include some details at the bottom of the article. No, this is just the starting point for you. You need to come to terms with the fact that they just ended it and the relationship is now OVER. I know, it’s horrendous and me spelling it out in black and white is awful to read. But, it’s where you need to start from if you want to stand any chance of getting your ex back.
Your Goal Is To Get Your Ex Back
So, once you get to that starting point and ACCEPT it’s OVER (this can take some time believe me and you’ll shed a lot more tears too) , then you can begin your new journey of self discovery. Your goal is to get your ex back, but first, you need to take stock an think about the old relationship. Why did it end? What went wrong? What was missing? Don’t worry too much about the how it ended, but focus on the why. You see, relationships don’t just end for no reason. There is always a reason, you just have to look back.
You’ll know yourself if it wasn’t quite right or if the spark was missing. Maybe you weren’t having as much fun anymore or perhaps you got stuck in a rut. Whatever the reason, let this be a period of self reflection and time to heal your thoughts. Come to terms with it. I recommend reading up on common relationship issues and why people split up if you’re not sure where to start. You’ll be glad you did. This means you can avoid those mistakes for the next relationship. It’s a cathartic exercise and will be worth it for your healing process.
Your Opening Move…
Once you’ve done that it’s time for the next step… your ‘opening move’…
If you want somebody to walk you through the process step-by-step and give you the best possible chance and knowing exactly what to say to get your ex back, then I would wholeheartedly recommend ‘The Magic of Making Up‘ by TW Jackson. Please go and have a look and read what he can do for you. I went through the process myself after a break up and I’m so glad I did. T-Dub as he’s known, takes you buy the hand and explains everything to you… the whole process. You’ll learn some powerful techniques (my favourite is the Fast Forward technique) that will help you throughout the process and beyond. He’s got some great videos that you can go and watch now and start feeling better about everything. You’ll be really pleased you did. It worked for me and can work for you too.
I wish you all the best on your journey and as T-Dub says…
“I’m rootin for ya!”